Feminerd: On Awesome Fangirls & Awful Comic Shops

If you follow us on Twitter, you probably know that last night we were at the incredible Fangirls Night Out at Earthworld Comics in Albany. It’s always a delight of friendly ladies, enlightening nerd talk, and inevitable Fangirling. Upon reflecting on the night on the way home, I was reminded of all of the terrible experiences I had before we started going to the amicable wonderland of Earthworld.

There was always a whole lot of looking. Starring at Emily & myself, wondering what the heck we’re doing in the shop, or taking it as an invitation to oogle their eyes at us. More than a few times, employees had automatically assumed that I was the one who was there to buy comics rather than Emily because I’m more androgynous looking. Apparently, the more manly you look, the more into comics you are.

Which brings me to my final straw experience. I, again, was with Emily at a shop in our area. We walked in and a young man whipped around and stared at us. He started instructing us where the new comics were and when they came out, assuming we didn’t know, despite that he didn’t work there. I said something like “Okay” to him, and he got all googly eyed. “Wait, are you a girl?” Now, I get misgendered every once in a while. It happens, some people just haven’t broken out of their shells of gender roles & binaries yet. I’m an androgynous looking woman. Its alright. But this young man made me very uncomfortable about. “Oh my god, I really thought you a man. That’s soo weird!” Meanwhile, the clerks behind the counter either hear what’s going on and chose to ignore it, while others were laughing about it. I turned to Emily & we stormed out of the shop, and I’ve never set foot in there again. We went next door to the Turkish Bazaar store to buy little pretty things & Turkish coffee to make me feel better. Since then, its been all the wonderful conversation & smiles of Earthworld.

Earthworld is what every shop should be. Friendly, talkative, knowledgeable and helpful. I can ask any employee there about anything, and they always seem to be able to help me, and somehow in the meantime, tell me about dozens of other series that I didn’t know I had to be reading. The employees seem to get to know you’re tastes, and will make perfect recommendations. Plus, there’s absolutely no googly eyes, starring you up & down, or treating you like some idiot or child buying something for your boyfriend. And every once in a while, there’s a lovely Friday that embraces its female community, like last night. Full of comradery & pure lady nerd power. Sometimes featuring Jess Fink!

B6970NjCIAErCKPI hope that you all can find a shop that rocks as much as this one. Where you can feel safe to shop, ask questions, whatever you’re there to do. Feel free to share you experiences with us, Fangirls, good or bad! We can rejoice or angrily shake our fists at the sky.

 

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One thought on “Feminerd: On Awesome Fangirls & Awful Comic Shops

  1. I’m sorry about your experience at the other store. I guess I was very lucky. The very first shop I went to was extremely friendly. I still go there whenever I can. At the time, I was a huge newbie, and even though they were busy moving, they still took the time to recommend books for me (I even remember what they recommended: Saga and Peter Panzerfaust). Even though I always went with my mom and no one else, I’ve only gotten one “you’re a girl and you like comics?” comment towards the beginning. (One of the customers said that seeing girls go in all by themselves felt like a unicorn sighting.) I just used it as the name of my blog. While girls are still a bit outnumbered, plenty come to the shop.

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